Sex Gets Real with Dawn Serra

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On with the show!

I received a doozy of an email recently all about a partner who watches porn and the damage that's caused to their relationship.

The story of their relationship is long, complicated, and full of problematic behaviors, so this week, I spend a large portion of the episode slowly breaking down the email and what it looks like when we try to control our partner's behavior.

We'll explore:

  • Why snooping and looking at a partner's phone and emails never OK
  • What to do when a partner comments on our bodies and tells us to make them look a certain way
  • What to do when we are doing things we don't want to do sexually for a partner without receiving anything in return
  • Why asking a partner to stop watching porn actually causes more harm in the long-run
  • Why the science doesn't support sex "addiction", porn "addiction", or food "addiction" and who is profitting off of us thinking otherwise
  • Unhealthy relationship dynamics
  • And why we NEED to start our relationships with our values and dealbreakers so that people can enthusiastically opt-in rather than being forced to opt-out later

Plus, a sad and confused email from Heart Broke Sex Freak. He cheated on his wife and left his marriage to be with the woman he cheated with only to have the new partner cheat on him. He feels lost and scared and like karma came for him.

Can a relationship survive cheating? What's on the other side of infidelity?

We've got some BIG questions this week, so tune in and see what you think.

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About Host Dawn Serra:

What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives.

In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence.

It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia.

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Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EST