Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra

What if you're already in love before the sex happens?

Comedian and 4-Play Baltimore host, Prescott Gaylord, joins us for the first of two HIQIs.

First, we hear from Sophie about college hook-ups and how she worked all her FWBs on campus. Then, Katie writes in because she is about to have sex with her girlfriend of one year for the first time. But she's never been in love before having sex and needs advice.

We weigh in. Also, Prescott makes lots of t-shirts.

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Direct download: Episode_103.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 8:26am EDT

Dirty Lola joins us this week!

First up, there is a free webinar on March 28th all about intimacy in relationships as you explore non-monogamy and opening an existing relationship up. Register here!

Second, Dawn is an expert speaking at the Love Detox online event that starts April 4th. Learn more here: http://www.thelovedetoxseries.com/dawn

This week's co-host is Dirty Lola, a sex toy extraordinaire at Shag in Brooklyn, and also the creator and host of Sex Ed a Go-Go.

After hearing all about Lola's new Daddy Dom, we jump into two listener questions.

One listener wants to know how to prepare for experimenting with their girlfriend's vibrator. We have lots of thoughts.

Another listener is sexually inexperienced and wants to know - how do you even get started with sex and how do you find people to experiment with? Prepare for LOTS of ideas.

Find Lola on Twitter and check out Sex Ed A Go-Go online or over at swingset.fm.

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Direct download: Episode_102.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 10:46am EDT

Dylan's official last episode and we talk blowjobs.

If you have any parting messages for Dylan, just use the email down below to send them to Dawn and she'll pass them along.

On this Hit It and Quit It, we heard from a listener about some horrible advice that Anna Faris and Adam Corolla recently gave on Anna's podcast, Unqualified. Just because your partner wants to watch you have sex with someone else does NOT mean they want a divorce. Ugh.

Also, a listener wrote in feeling horrible about how grossed out she gets with blowjobs. Do we have any thoughts?

But (butt?) of course we do.

Also, we have an ask! Can you review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts. Just search for us in iTunes and leave a review.

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Direct download: Episode_101.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

100 episodes of Sex Gets Real!!!

Wow.

100 episodes.

What an amazing 2+ years it's been. And it also seems appropriate that today is the day Dylan is announcing she's leaving the show.

As sad as Dawn is about the news, Dylan has an opportunity that is amazing and something she's been wanting for a long time.

The show isn't going anywhere though, so don't worry. We'll be having loads of amazing guest co-hosts and contests, so episode 100 is simply a chance for us to try something new with our next 100 episodes.

And this episode doesn't disappoint - questions about threesomes and unicorns and ass sex and precum and much much more.

Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts. Just click the iTunes link below.

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Direct download: Episode_100.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 6:00am EDT

CAN YOU TAKE THE PLEASURE?!?!

It's OK to change your mind, just like Dawn did at a recent BDSM class.

A few listeners write in with stories and thanks. Plus, our listener Dirty Daughter has a very embarrassing story to share about how her father responded to seeing her sex toys.

And the age old question, should you tell him if he sucks in bed?

Dawn and Dylan share their perspective, which may surprise you.

Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, even if you listen on Spreaker or Spotify.

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Direct download: Episode_99.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 10:39am EDT

Dawn attended a BDSM conference for Valentine's in Canada and tried several new things. Dylan scored a ton of presents.

We have a backlog of listener emails, too. One listener wants to give his girlfriend a vibrator but she's inexperienced and he isn't sure where to start.

Another listener is a virgin and wants to know, should she just have sex and get it over with? How do you even start? What's sex like?

It's a lot of laughter and lots of fun this week, plus some sweet texts from new listeners. We love you, too!

Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts. Just click the iTunes link below.

You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us

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Direct download: Episode_98.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

That fits where?

It all starts with an article about modesty and how women should expect to be treated poorly based on what they wear. You know Dawn can't let that go. So, let's put on our ranty pants and rage against the sexist notion that what you wear has anything to do with your value, intelligence, or ability.

Then, we jump into a fun question from a listener who thinks she wants to try her fantasy. What is it? Fisting!

We talk about lube and gloves and communication, plus why mainstream porn is NOT the place to go if you want to learn what it's about.

Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, even if you listen on Spreaker or Spotify.

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Direct download: Episode_97.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 9:29am EDT

Dawn got her hands on a new sex toy that's a clitoral stimulator. She wants to give it a few more test drives, but offers her first impression.

Then, we field listener questions on Bad Dragon dildos, taking money for sex off a craigslist ad which leads us to ranting about sex work laws, and a question about lesbian bed death.

If you can't talk about sex with a partner, you probably shouldn't be having sex. And don't expect sex to be what you want it to be if you can't talk about it. It has to start there.

Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts.

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Direct download: Episode_96.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

Butt stuff. It's all about the butt.

Over 3,500 people turned in for the Explore More Summit. Hundreds of reviews poured in and people loved it. If you want to check out the 30 interviews for yourself, you can still buy them for just over $1 per talk.

A listener needs advice on how to get started with anal. He has a new boyfriend, and he'd like to find a way to practice the sex.

So, we talk butt plugs, fingers, dildos, and prostate massagers.

Plus, what's with the bad anal experiences? Oh, and Dylan thinks she pulled a muscle shoveling all that damn blizzard snow.

Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts.

You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us

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Direct download: Episode_95.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

This is what happens when we have coffee and record first thing.

Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn's free 10-day online summit. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the event, you can still check out the interviews.</em>

We're a little hyper this time around because we recorded SO early in the morning, but what can you do?

We talk ass hooks, porn, clown sex, intersex, and...a listener wrote in from the country of Iran and he is having some shame around masturbation and porn.

So, we weigh in. Can you ever know everything there is to know about sex? Do you WANT to? And what if you're raised in a community or a culture that is very sexually repressed? Let's see where we end up.

Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts.

You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us

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Direct download: Episode_94.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 8:49am EDT