Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra (health, sexuality)

Dawn attended a BDSM conference for Valentine's in Canada and tried several new things. Dylan scored a ton of presents.

We have a backlog of listener emails, too. One listener wants to give his girlfriend a vibrator but she's inexperienced and he isn't sure where to start.

Another listener is a virgin and wants to know, should she just have sex and get it over with? How do you even start? What's sex like?

It's a lot of laughter and lots of fun this week, plus some sweet texts from new listeners. We love you, too!

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Direct download: Episode_98.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EST

That fits where?

It all starts with an article about modesty and how women should expect to be treated poorly based on what they wear. You know Dawn can't let that go. So, let's put on our ranty pants and rage against the sexist notion that what you wear has anything to do with your value, intelligence, or ability.

Then, we jump into a fun question from a listener who thinks she wants to try her fantasy. What is it? Fisting!

We talk about lube and gloves and communication, plus why mainstream porn is NOT the place to go if you want to learn what it's about.

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Direct download: Episode_97.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 9:29am EST

Dawn got her hands on a new sex toy that's a clitoral stimulator. She wants to give it a few more test drives, but offers her first impression.

Then, we field listener questions on Bad Dragon dildos, taking money for sex off a craigslist ad which leads us to ranting about sex work laws, and a question about lesbian bed death.

If you can't talk about sex with a partner, you probably shouldn't be having sex. And don't expect sex to be what you want it to be if you can't talk about it. It has to start there.

Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts.

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Direct download: Episode_96.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EST

Butt stuff. It's all about the butt.

Over 3,500 people turned in for the Explore More Summit. Hundreds of reviews poured in and people loved it. If you want to check out the 30 interviews for yourself, you can still buy them for just over $1 per talk.

A listener needs advice on how to get started with anal. He has a new boyfriend, and he'd like to find a way to practice the sex.

So, we talk butt plugs, fingers, dildos, and prostate massagers.

Plus, what's with the bad anal experiences? Oh, and Dylan thinks she pulled a muscle shoveling all that damn blizzard snow.

Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts.

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Direct download: Episode_95.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EST

This is what happens when we have coffee and record first thing.

Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn's free 10-day online summit. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the event, you can still check out the interviews.</em>

We're a little hyper this time around because we recorded SO early in the morning, but what can you do?

We talk ass hooks, porn, clown sex, intersex, and...a listener wrote in from the country of Iran and he is having some shame around masturbation and porn.

So, we weigh in. Can you ever know everything there is to know about sex? Do you WANT to? And what if you're raised in a community or a culture that is very sexually repressed? Let's see where we end up.

Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts.

You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us

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Direct download: Episode_94.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 8:49am EST

Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn's free 10-day online summit. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the event, you can still check out the interviews.

Dawn has a new coloring book that is all gay men and group sex. Dylan loves it.

Mike wrote back about the rape that he witnessed.

And our listener Marcella wants to know which book Dawn recommends for new techniques for pleasing a penis.

A few of the suggestions include:

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Direct download: Episode_93.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EST

Register for the summit!

As of January 17th, there are over 600 people signed up for the Explore More Summit that Dawn created. Ready to join in the fun? Head to exploremoresummit.com. It's free, and Dawn has 30 interviews for you to watch over the course of 10 days, starting January 28th. It's amazing and even has celebrity guests.

We've got listener stories about sex, a question about why a group of swingers needed SO MANY DAMN TOWELS at this hotel, a transphobic politician trying to make horrible laws in Virginia, and a lot more.

One listener writes in saying he tried to talk to his wife about group sex and it went really poorly. Is it him? Why did it go so wrong? Dawn and Dylan have LOTS of ideas on this one.

You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us

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Direct download: Episode_92.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 6:00am EST

Dawn has a HUGE announcement. 

Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn's free 10-day online summit. She's been slaving over it for 3 months, in secret, and you do NOT want to miss all of the experts and celebrities she interviewed.

It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the event, you can still check out the interviews.

A listener asks about what it's like when we watch cam sites and porn.

Then, we talk about Buck Angel and his awesome vagina, trans bodies, intersex folks (they're SO much more common than anyone realizes) and the trauma of being non-binary and trying to go to the bathroom.

Oh, and Dylan doesn't like Salon.com's suggestion that we all use gender-neutral pronouns, but Dawn is a huge fan. We discuss.

You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us

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Direct download: Episode_91.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EST

Well, Dylan is sick now, but we're still recording because we missed you.

Listeners write in about getting caught by their parents giving a blow job and getting picked up by lesbians at a conference. Dawn gets a new remote controlled vibrator and has some fun with it.

More on James Deen and Stoya. Plus, Cooper Beckett is offering a special on his new book, A Life Less Monogamous.

And finally, we have a really intense discussion about a listener who witnessed a friend get raped at a play party. What was his responsibility in all of it? What can he do to move on? It's such a tough topic, Dawn reached out to some sex educator friends for their thoughts, as well.

Next week Dawn has a HUGE announcement, so stay tuned for that.

You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us

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Direct download: Sex_Gets_Real_Episode_90.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EST

 

Yes, we're on a break for the holidays, but Dawn just couldn't take it.

To tide us over until January 3rd, here is a short little erotica reading called "Pink" by Helena Black.

Talk to you in 2016!

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Direct download: Holiday_special.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 3:14pm EST