Sex Gets Real: Talking Sex, Relationships, and Kink with Dawn Serra (health, sexuality)

 

Yes, we're on a break for the holidays, but Dawn just couldn't take it.

To tide us over until January 3rd, here is a short little erotica reading called "Pink" by Helena Black.

Talk to you in 2016!

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Direct download: Holiday_special.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 3:14pm EDT

A listener wants us to be really real. Just how messy is anal play? She wants to try it, but she's psyched herself out over the poop.

That sends us off on a bender on all things butts - from hair to the doorbell technique to Dylan getting REALLY excited about all the things she likes in her butt. And of course, loads of practical advice and personal stories on real butt sex and the mess factor.

Dylan closes the show with a little victory statement about Rhonda Rousey losing her fight after the lube fiasco of a few weeks ago.

Have a great holiday season, everyone! We had an amazing 2015.

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Direct download: Episode_89.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

Straight guys having sexing with straight guys?

We want to start the episode by saying that we stand in solidarity with Stoya after she named James Deen as her rapist. It takes tremendous courage to speak up, especially when the person you're naming is so popular and beloved.

Let's talk about the psychology of victim blaming. Let's also talk about supporting victims and focusing on healing.

Bondage Bands sent us a free sample of their bands, so Dawn has Dylan try them out on-air. Hilarity ensues.

A listener wants to know if their straight fantasies mean they are cheating or less queer. Plus, listeners write in about self-sucking.

Finally, what's with straight guys having sex with other straight guys? Is this is a thing? Does that mean you're gay? We dig in.

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Direct download: Episode_88.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 6:00am EDT

Sex. The scariest thing in the world?

Dawn really loved this conversation about STI stigma. A recent article in The Atlantic (link below in the show notes) talked about some research findings that show people are terrified of sex.

People judge someone more harshly for transmitting a mild case of curable chlamydia than killing someone with swine flu. Why? Because someone with chlamydia likely had prior sexual encounters and people see that as completely unforgivable.

Unfortunately, our abstinence-only focus on teaching kids how super scary sex can be - STIs can kill and pregnancy can ruin your entire life - means that as adults we simultaneously crave and vilify sex. It's a recipe for lying about STI status, taking huge risks to avoid shame, and driving behaviors into the closet.

Plus, Dawn got a new therapist to help with some relationship feels and it's blowing her mind. Permission to be messy: granted.

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Direct download: Episode_87.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

We're finally back on track after losing some episodes a few weeks back. We revisit a listener email about self-sucking. Should he introduce his talent to his wife? The thought kind of turns him on.

Then, Dawn and Dylan talk about masturbation being a sin along with a new superpower: zombiefying vagina goo. Scary stuff.

If you like a cushy, gel-like lube for anal, what's a body safe option? Online dating and hook-ups - it's SO easy to send a horrible first message.

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Direct download: Episode_86.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 6:00am EDT

Dawn & Dylan take a moment to talk about the Paris attacks, plus the lack of visibility on attacks in Beirut, Baghdad, and when the violence is against people of color. We wish peace for all us, but if we want human rights to be upheld, we need to acknowledge when racial justice issues arise.

Dawn is in the process of creating a badass online summit that will be free with some of the world's leading experts in sex, relationships, sensuality, and body love. So, a listener wrote in with a question for the summit experts. Dawn and Dylan dig in a bit.

Should a man married 14-years to a super monogamous spouse just accept that he can't have non-monogamous experiences or does he need to end the marriage with someone he loves in order to have these sexual adventures?

Plus, a kid on a bus does the jerk off motion AND throwing the spooge on cars passing by, including Dawn. She reacts.

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Direct download: Episode_85.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 6:00am EDT

We have a full episode for you this week. From listener stories about fingering circles as a teenager to warnings against soapy blowjobs, our listeners are certainly adventurous.

Plus, one listener wants to know what can be done now that his wife has had a full hysterectomy and has zero desire for sex. Is there any hope?

Dawn talks pubic hair, and Dylan horrifies us all with a story about a woman using a sausage to pleasure herself in a public bathroom. No, folks. Just no.

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Direct download: Episode_84.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:00am EDT

Dylan is back from Hawaii. Basically, it was really hot and there was boob sweat.

Dawn attended Sex Down South where she saw a hand sex demo, did a masturbation circle, and generally had an amazing time learning from Tristan Taormino and Amy Jo Goddard.

Plus, we have so many listener emails - a sex newbie wants to know if she should carry condoms. A swinger reports back on her latest adventures. Peoria Illinois apparently had a rad Pride. And what if your boyfriend ONLY wants to do reverse cowgirl anymore?

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Direct download: Episode_83.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 4:00am EDT

Dawn had a shitty week. Not only was she battling Strep, but she fried her laptop and lost this week's episode. So, we're doing a HIQI in place of our longer episode and we'll be back on track in 2 weeks.

So, what are we talking about this week besides Dylan's vacation to Hawaii? Well, a listener, who is a special needs dad, wrote in with some feedback about the interview we had on sex and disability.

Sex and a child with a social or developmental disability gets really complicated? What's right for them? How do you protect them from abuse? Can you? And when is medical treatment actually eugenics in disguise?

It's a tough conversation full of some ableist language, but we have to start somewhere.

Also, retirement communities and STIs. Teach your grandparents and parents about safer sex!

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Direct download: Episode_82.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 5:30am EDT

We've reached a new level of gross, folks.

So many listeners stories and confessions - from a new gross word for spooge to a story about an orgy in high school, our listeners are adventurous to the max!

And, one listener wants to know if she went too far with her sister...was it OK or did it cross the line?

We can't stress enough, either, how much we don't want unsolicited dick pics unless they're from Benedict Cumberbatch or Joseph Gordon-Levitt or George Clooney or something. And even then, an ask would be nice.

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Direct download: Episode_81.mp3
Category:Health, Sexuality -- posted at: 6:00am EDT